How To Succeed After Failure In Life

How to succeed after failure in life? What? That is a huge question. This last few days, I have been quite busy with other things and that is why it took me longer than I wanted to post something. I hope you are doing good. I thought about the idea of failure right after asking myself what success really meant. I know , how to succeed is a good question. Let us take a look at some ideas.

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It is always amazing how we realize the order of things when we mature as humans. One major, and I mean this, major mistake parents make is making their children think only of success and not failure. If your parent talked to you about failure, then good for you.

Every single time a child makes a mistake, he or she is taken through a long talk about how he should have scored perfect grades or won a competition and such. I totally like the idea of encouraging young people. Don’t get me wrong here. The problem however is, while talking about success and the hard work that goes with it, people forget to prepare for failure. 

I have been there. A few years ago, I had dreams that included achieving great things. With the same notion, the idea that if you work very hard you will succeed. That is the spirit that took me through school. I remember standing in front of hundreds of students and telling them how they should work hard, study like it is your last time and stop wasting your time. Those dreams were shuttered to tiny pieces recently. I didn’t see a reason to keep hope anymore. It was hard. Talk about hitting rock bottom.

So how do you really prepare for failure? I didn’t prepare or as many would say, I didn’t sign up for this. You know what is really amazing about failing? Failing is awesome. The reason is simple: after going through failure, you recollect yourself and turn the experience into a lesson. At least that is what you should do.

How To Succeed After Failure – Tips You Can Use

Below are some personal tips that might help you get back on your feet after your dreams are crashed and your future turned into solid darkness:

  • Accept the fact that you might fail – I believe having this mindset reduces the pain that comes from failure. It makes you have backup plans in what you do. No one works so hard because they want to fail. Creating a room for error will help you absorb the shock and therefore giving sufficient strength to start over.
  • There are so many people who are better than you – This is difficult for many of us. I think competitions are the best examples to think of when it comes to being good at anything. No matter what you do, there is a kid somewhere who will kick your butt. Just understand that and save yourself the stresses and pain in life.
  • Start on the right footing – One of the many reasons why we fail is because we do so many things the wrong way right from the start. Take for example someone who thinks that perhaps going to a foreign country for higher education right after high school is the best idea. That is not the best idea unless you can afford it.
  • Talk to other people about it – I find this to be easier to say than do. How often do you talk to your friends about how you horribly failed at something? There is a very decent chance that someone somewhere has been through the same thing as you. Reaching out to others will sort of ‘split’ the pain and gives you the energy to get up and run again.
  • Know that failure is just a pathway to success – This really depends on whether you really want to succeed or not. I believe you only fail when you are trying to succeed. People who never notice failure are not trying to succeed. After giving your best and failing, try again and again and again until you arrive at your goal. If you give up after your first attempt, then you remain a failure forever.

As I finish this post, I would like to say one more thing: failure is a sour pill to swallow. Just like many other pills however, it is meant to strengthen you rather than kill you. I have found out that asking questions and talking to people helps a lot. A friend of mine once shared a quote with me:

If you ask a question, you remain stupid for just five minutes. If you don’t ask a question, you remain stupid forever.

It is up to you now. If you have failed before, just know that you are on your way to success and if you have not failed before, be prepared for some because it can happen to anyone. Good luck to you.

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Written By Elisha Chirchir

Elisha Chirchir is a software developer. He is also the founder of Simple Developer and co-founder of Instinctive Software Solutions. On any given day, he works on both Android and Web Development. During his 'free time', he offers training to those interested in learning how to code in php, java, python, javaScript etc. You can easily find him on StackOverflow Android chatroom or on Twitter @Eenvincible

3 Comments on “How To Succeed After Failure In Life

  1. shasiReddy Reply

    May 3, 2014 at 1:32

    this post feels me better because I doesnt got anybody to advice me lovingly and caringly.

  2. tj Reply

    June 15, 2018 at 5:10

    shasiReddy, It’s over four years since you posted, so you probably won’t see this, but if you do, I wish I could know you so that I, as an older person (I probably am quite a bit older, though I don’t know for certain) could give you advice. I would gladly do so. I know what it’s like to be young and unsure and I know the clarity that years of life experience can bring. I wish I could share with you. I hope you are doing well and I pray your future holds great things for you. God bless you.

  3. tj Reply

    June 15, 2018 at 5:12

    Thank you. Elisha. I hope you have had many successes since writing this.

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